World of Immaturity

This is a cruel word, some people will break your heart and not have a care in the world, that's just life. But, it is not your fault. They are just immature and cannot see what's in front of them. Always think highly of yourself, preserve your pride and self respect. Being played and lied to is one of the worst feelings, i know. Girls that are faithful, smart and truly care about their boyfriends are portrayed as boring and often are unappreciated or left for something easy or for what seems more "fun" at the moment. He will come back once he realizes you were what he needed, but it may be too late. Some girls do all the right things, remain loyal encourage, love and support their boyfriends to the fullest, but get cheated on or unappreciated, and why? One word; immaturity. It can be discouraging when you are a great girl but still get screwed over, and you might want to give up on relationships and love. But we are all so young and will have many more chances at love. Never let these immature guys bring you down, because you're so much better than that. There are good guys out there, trust me. God has saved you from the wrong person. Everything happens for a reason. Which is a lesson that I've learned. No matter who comes in and out of my life I am not changing who i am, i will always be a kind person and it is only immature people that take advantage of the ones who truly care for them. If someone is playing with your heart when you are being loyal to them, its clear they are immature, do not waste your time. Remember that this is only highschool and you will have so much time to find the right person for you, do not give up on future relationships. There are some mature guys in high school, that will treat you right, you just have to be patient, the right guy will come and at the right time. To all the loyal girls out there, continue to do what you do, i promise one day someone will appreciate it. 

Letting go of someone who's hurting you

You cannot hold onto someone who is hurting you, you deserve so much better, you deserve to be happy. Never settle for less than you deserve. There's a lot of boys that are lucky enough to have a good faithful girl but they take that for granted and are too blind to see what's right in front of them. Notice i said "boys" not men. You may feel like you do so much for someone and they just don't do the same for you in return. It hurts to feel unappreciated or unimportant. But when you feel that way you should let him know and if he doesn't respond or try to make a change then that's when you need to leave. Never let a guy think that you won't leave him because he'll just keep doing the same things, thinking that you will stay no matter what because of the love you have for him. But they say if you really love something set it free, right? That's what you have to do, and it won't be easy, but you can do it. If someone is causing you more pain than happiness lately or you feel like you deserve more, then it's time to move on! This can be an excruciating process so make sure you have a support system around you like friends and family. It's going to be difficult deleting him from your mind at first so start with deleting all the pictures you have with him or pictures that remind you of him. Second, delete his number. If he texts you try not to respond, any communication with him might cause you to second guess your decision on leaving when you know he doesn't deserve another chance. Do not get involved with him again unless you are sure he's willing to change, especially if you've given him multiple chances before. Third, anything that reminds you of him has to go, if you still love him then you must remember that some people can only stay in your heart, not in your life. He's hurting you and you deserve better, never become so desperate for love or desperate for someone that you settle for less than you deserve. You are worthy of love and should be treated like a queen, nothing less. As teenagers we are just in love with the idea of love so we'll settle for anything which is why you see girls putting up with their boyfriends treating them badly, because they believe it's "love". We have so much time to find the right person. Seriously, we have our whole lives ahead of us. Yes, you are going to miss the person who hurt you, even though you know he's bad for you, that's just how it works. Our mind's tell us one thing and our hearts tell us another and it can be difficult to make a decision. But, sooner or later you will find someone, and when the guy who hurt you sees you being happy with him, he's going to regret not treating you right. Someone else will do the things he never did. One day this will all be worth it and things will fall together and finally make sense. Someone will enter your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else. Just be patient and keep your head held high, remember that you deserve the best, nothing less. Let go of what's hurting you. 

Loving yourself / Gaining confidence

In middle school i had no self confidence once so ever. Some people don't understand why girls get so insecure, but it mainly has to do with not feeling good enough. Somedays I used to look in the mirror and just point out everything that i saw wrong with me, my mistake was that i didn't see everything i liked about myself. Starting in 9th grade my confidence shot up, i just learned to love myself instead of tearing myself down. Now i'm the most confident I've ever been, i'm not conceited but i definitely love myself. I've had days where i hated myself and sometimes i still get insecure, but i've learned ways to get through that. Every teenage girl is bound to have insecurities, it's completely normal. Whether you are insecure about your weight, your face or even your personality, there are ways to learn how to love yourself. Once you learn to love yourself you will be comfortable in your own skin. Teenage girls are insecure due to the fear of being judged by society and their pressure to be perfect. You should always stay true to who you are. You shouldn't have to try to be perfect, because you're already perfect in your own way somehow. Never compare yourself to anyone else, other girls are pretty in their own way, just as well as you are yourself. Seeing models in magazines that wear a size 0 and seem to have flawless faces can sometimes make you feel less of yourself. You might have the urge to compare yourself to them and believe that that's what you need to look like in order to be perfect. But who you are is just fine. You've got to learn to accept who you are. We all have flaws but we should learn to love them. If you ever feel insecure just look your favorite picture of yourself, or point out something you like about yourself, instead of focusing on the negative things. Instead of tearing yourself down, look in the mirror, smile and give yourself a compliment. If there is something about yourself that you want to change then that's fine, whether it is your weight or maybe it's the way you interact with others. If it makes you happy and you believe that it will benefit you overall, then that's okay. But there's a difference between switching up your style or appearance and pretending to be someone you're not. If you want to change your look then make sure it's for you, no one else. Do it because YOU want to, not because you think people will like you more because of it. No one should tell you who you should be, or make you feel like who you are isn't good enough. I know sometimes it's hard to follow your heart, but you'll get there.