Dealing with learned helplessness

My heart was shattered and i had to pick up all the pieces alone. I'm petrified of giving away my heart, letting someone into my mind and soul and taking the risk of getting hurt again. I get so insecure that the thoughts in the back of my head reflecting my learned helplessness rummage uncontrollably. I shouldn't be this paranoid. I've built up walls around my heart and I am trying so hard to tear them down. I want to find a safe place to fall but I can't do that when I portray every guy as a villain. Sometimes we all feel this way, If you're anything like me, here's my advice to you. You should never feel like there isn't anyone out there for you because there is, maybe you just haven't met them yet or maybe they're in your life right now but you just haven't noticed them. If you're having trouble finding a good guy, you should never lose hope. Just remember that you don't need to look for love, because most likely, love will find you. You don't always need a guy to feel loved, you can find love right now within other things, like yourself, your family, a sport or an activity, and that will keep you busy and happy, then sooner or later, when you least expect you'll meet someone. Focus on yourself right now, always love yourself first because that is what's most important. If you are not aware of the term "learned helplessness" it is when you are so used to something bad happing to you, you avoid it because you're afraid it's going to happen again.  Not everyone is going to hurt you. I know getting in a new relationship can be traumatizing but just keep a positive attitude. Although you've been hurt once before, or maybe even repeatedly, someone is going to enter your life and make you forget your heart was ever broken. When you meet someone, always remember that expecting things to go wrong, is not the way to make things go right. If a guy is treating you right, enjoy it, do not jump to conclusions of the relationship being "too good to be true" just because of your past. Keep your head held high, because you're beautiful and worthy to be loved.